“Nothing Happened”

Some people have mastered this talent. They never apologize. They can hurt you, disrespect you, embarrass you, and then show up the next day acting like nothing ever happened. No acknowledgment. No empathy. No reflection. Just casually starting a conversation like, “So what are you doing today?” as if yesterday was deleted from the universe.

And the worst part is that you are suddenly put in a tricky place. If you bring up the issue, you look dramatic. If you don’t bring up the issue, you feel like you are betraying your own emotions. So you end up maintaining peace. Not because you are okay, but because you are tired. Meanwhile, the peace you are desperately trying to maintain is the same peace they destroyed in the first place. But now you are the one responsible for keeping everything “normal.”

The truth is, they never intended to fix anything. Their intention is only to control the narrative. As long as they pretend nothing happened, you are supposed to go along with their version of reality. If you dare to break the illusion, you become the problem.

Healthy people behave differently. They can say, “I’m sorry. I should not have done that. Can we talk about it?” They acknowledge your feelings and take responsibility. But people with narcissistic tendencies flip the script. Instead of apologizing, they ask, “Why are you still upset?” or “I thought we moved on.” Some even throw the classic line, “You are overthinking.” Translation: “I caused the problem, but you are going to pay for it.”

Over time you realise that this is not miscommunication. This is strategy. It is easier for them to pretend nothing happened than to look in the mirror. If they do not acknowledge the harm, it becomes your job to forget it. And somehow you are the one who ends up swallowing your emotions just to keep the relationship alive.

Here is the reality: if someone refuses to acknowledge the harm they caused, they do not deserve access to you. They do not deserve the VIP pass to your time, energy, or peace of mind. People who want to be in your life should be able to say “I am sorry” without you dragging it out of them. Accountability should not require begging.

The people who deserve you are the ones who can take responsibility, have tough conversations, and show respect even when things are uncomfortable. Anything else is not peace. It is just suppression pretending to be peace. And fake peace always turns into a bigger war later.