Some People Only Like You When You’re Broken

Have you noticed how some people only seem to like you when you’re struggling? When you’re quiet, uncertain, or going through a tough time, they’re right there. They listen, they nod, they tell you they care. But the moment you start doing better, something changes.

Your light becomes too bright for them. Your confidence feels like noise. Your growth makes them uncomfortable, not because you did something wrong, but because your shine reminds them of what they’re not doing.

When you were down, you were easy to relate to. Safe. Familiar. But when you rise, you unknowingly challenge the limits they’ve set for themselves. That’s when you notice their energy shift; fewer calls, fewer messages, maybe even silence when you share good news.

It’s a strange thing to accept, but not everyone is meant to celebrate you. Some people liked the version of you that needed saving. They don’t know what to do with the version that doesn’t.

And that’s okay. You don’t have to dim your light to keep others comfortable. You don’t have to make yourself smaller to fit into their story.

Keep shining anyway. The right people won’t be burnt by your fire, they’ll stand closer to it. They’ll rise with you. They’ll be proud of you, not threatened by you.

Your journey isn’t meant to make everyone feel at ease. It’s meant to make you feel alive. So keep walking. Keep growing.