Anish Nadh’s Blog

I’ve always felt misunderstood and judged, even when I was being genuine. The pain that comes from being misunderstood can be deeply damaging. For a long time, I kept searching for answers, trying to explain myself, trying to convince people. But eventually, I realized that it’s not my job to make someone understand me. I’ve presented myself truthfully. That’s enough. True peace comes when you stop chasing validation, from audiences, family, love, or even your past self. Do your work. Live your values. Love freely. If someone doesn’t get it, that’s not your burden to carry.

Ozzy Osbourne is no more. When I was 16, my college band at Cathedrals played a song called  Paranoid . We all head-banged to it. That was my introduction to Ozzy. I loved Ozzy’s personality. There was a  rumour  going around that he was the Antichrist, so I hid in Ozzy’s music to balance out all the religion that was being shoved down my throat. I even had a band with Joey that time. We covered  Nativity in Black  back when I was still playing bass in the band. We won all the college competitions (only coz Joey was amazing). The lyrics went “My name is Lucifer, please take my hand.”, that made us damn cool in the band circles.  We talked about Ozzy often, inked his name on our knuckles with ball pens, and made fun of boy bands. I even bought a cheap Ozzy T-shirt from Shivajinagar and I  lived  in it. My 6 foot tall friend and our band’s roadie, Avinash Nair, wrote down the tabs to  Paranoid  in his math notebook from an “Internet cafe” ...

When was the last time you said,  “What I did was wrong” before blaming someone else? It takes integrity, humility, and courage to admit when you’re wrong. But doing so can bring peace and help you move on without bitterness. We all make mistakes, we’re human, not robots. We mess up sometimes, and that’s okay. Every action has consequences. We just have to face them and take responsibility for our choices. It's tough to live with guilt and shame, but you’ve got to forgive yourself and move forward. If you choose to repeat the same mistake, that’s your decision!, but be aware, there  will  be consequences. Growth only begins the moment you stop running from the truth and start owning your story. Along with being kind to yourself you must be honest as well. That’s when healing begins. 

You got one life, so cheat!  Buy gifts!  Do acts of kindness,  Get that physical touch!  Hear the words of affirmations!  Spend quality time!  You deserve it!  You need the attention,  The validation,  The looks from strangers,  The admiration from your peers!  Your need to share things,  Cheat emotionally, physically  financially!  Have that revenge!  Micro cheat, there’s Instagram!  Linked-in is great too! It’s all about connections  Make as many as you can! Go to town with it!  Get on a dating app with a fake name! Get that gym membership!  Go on “solo” trips  Make eye contact with strangers!  Stay on call with your lover!  Share romantic songs!  Say,  We are just friends to your wife!  Write cute notes for her!  Send him food!  Hide your phone, emails and your social media!  Call the professor by his name!  Tell your wife, you’re out with ...

Who doesn’t love gossip? We watch, share, and laugh about it all the time. Look at us right now going to town with a Coldplay kiss cam video!  The truth is, most people: men and women, sometimes find others more attractive than their own partners. And it's natural to form connections with people outside our relationships. Expecting one person to meet all our emotional, physical, and intellectual needs can be a bit unfair. Deep down, we all know this. We also admire celebrities! Men might keep staring at pictures of Kim Kardashian, and women swoon over Shah Rukh Khan on TV. Are these just harmless fantasies and admiration?  Sometimes, at work or in social settings, we meet someone and feel a strong pull towards them. We talk, we share things, we laugh. Dopamine gets released in the brain, and suddenly we’re feeling good, maybe even confused. It is not always love, but sometimes it is! Sometimes its just chemistry, hormones, and timing (sometimes bad timing)  And that’s whe...

There’s blood oozing down from your teeth!  How do I ignore it? You vampire! You bit off more than you can chew!  You can’t kill me.  I’m barely alive!  I’ll survive.